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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

When I dare to be powerful—to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

– Audre Lorde

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

– Seneca

You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.”

– Mae West

I always maintained that the greatest obstacle in life isn’t danger, it’s boredom. The battle against it is responsible for most of the events in the world — good or ill.”

– Dr. Evelyn Vogel, Dexter

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”

– Leo Jozef Suenens

The gem cannot be polished without friction; nor man perfected without trials.”

– Chinese proverb

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,
 what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.”

– Barack Obama

Speaking more than one language is no longer just an asset in today’s job market; it is a requirement.”

– Tom Adams, CEO, Rosetta Stone

Who cares if my glass is half empty or half full; I still have something to drink.”

– Optimism rules

Don’t wait for someone else to lead you to your right life; that privilege—and responsibility—is yours alone.”

– Martha Beck

You don’t love someone because of their looks or their clothes or their car. You love them because they sing a song only your heart can understand.”

– L.J. Smith

There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.”

– Leonard Cohen

You don’t go into a field that requires cracking people’s heads open or operating on something as delicate as the spinal cord unless you are comfortable with taking risks.”

– Dr. Ben Carson

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

– Mary Oliver

You must have chaos within you, to create a dancing star.”

– Frederic Nietzsche

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– Avenida Margarita

‎No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another.”

– Charles Dickens

Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.”

– Arthur Rubinstein

A people who mean to be their Governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives.”

– James Madison

The great use of life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”

– William James

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which obstacles vanish.”

– John Quincy Adams

Women once had the goal of being Superwoman; I think most of us now simply strive to have a super day.”

– Author, Activist Lee Woodruff

Everyone is a mirror image of yourself—your own thinking coming back at you.”

– Byron Katie

I find out what the world needs, then I proceed to invent.”

– Thomas Edison

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

When a dog runs at you, whistle for him.”

– Henry David Thoreau

Spend the afternoon. You can’t take it with you.”

– Annie Dillard

It is possible to fail in many ways…while to succeed is possible only in one way.”

– Aristotle

Do you have the desire to create something new; the strength of conviction to believe your creation will be successful, and the reservoir of energy necessary to thrust it into the marketplace?”

– Steven Schussler

Never never never never give up.”

– Winston Churchill

We are all of us born with a letter inside us, and that only if we are true to ourselves, may we be allowed to read it before we die.”

– Douglas Coupland

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”

– Leon Joseph Suenens

Ambition is the germ from which all growth of nobleness proceeds.”

– Thomas Dunn

Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.”

– Robert Frost

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– Ellen DeGeneres

If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”

– Anna Quindlen

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently.”

– Steve Jobs, Apple, Inc.

Running that first shop taught me business is not financial science; it’s about trading.”

– Anita Roddick, founder, The Body Shop

Success is about finding a livelihood that brings joy, self-sufficiency, and a sense of contributing.”

– Anita Roddick

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.”

– Robert Fritz

There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be…”

– John Lennon

Change is a math formula. Change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change.”

– Alan Webber, author, "Rules of Thumb"

You must learn to be still in the midst of activity 
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– Indira Ghandi

Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.”

– Thomas Carlyle

No longer talk at all about the kind of man a good man ought to be, but be such.”

– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.”

– Woodrow Wilson

By your stumbling the world is perfected.”

– Sri Aurobindo

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”

– Charles R. Swindoll

A lot of people have ideas, but few decide to do something about them now. Not next week. But today.”

– Nolan Bushnell, founder, Atari