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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.”

– Thomas Carlyle

Letting go of expectations is a ticket to peace. It allows us to ride over every crisis—small or large—like a beach ball on water.”

– Martha Beck

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

– Groucho Marx

It is possible to fail in many ways…while to succeed is possible only in one way.”

– Aristotle

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love.”

– Jalaluddin Rumi

Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them!”

– Madam C.J. Walker

There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.”

– Leonard Cohen

The quality of your life is directly related to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with.”

– Tony Robbins

The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”

– Bruce Lee

A people who mean to be their Governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives.”

– James Madison

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

– Lao Tzu

Instead of loving your enemies, treat your friends a little better.”

– Edgar W. Howe

If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.”

– Joseph Addison

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

A great secret of success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up.”

– Albert Schweitzer

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”

– T.S. Eliot

The great use of life is to spend it on something that will outlast it.”

– William James

Part of your destiny is to live in the zone of maximum satisfaction.”

– Martha Beck

Don’t follow your dreams. Chase them.”

– Richard Dumb

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

– William Butler Yeats

Traveling is one way of lengthening life, at least in appearance.”

– Benjamin Franklin

You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.”

– Mae West

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

– John Quincy Adams

Challenge is a dragon with a gift in its mouth. Tame the dragon and the gift is yours.”

– Noela Evans

Don’t follow, lead. Don’t copy, create. Don’t start, finish. Don’t sit still, move. Don’t fit in, stand out. Don’t sit quietly, speak up. (Not all the time, sure, but more often.)”

– Seth Godin

The only dream worth having is to live while you’re alive and die only when you’re dead.”

– Arundhati Roy

If you want to be busy, keep trying to be perfect. If you want to be happy, focus on making a difference.”

– Lisa Earle McLeod

The gem cannot be polished without friction; nor man perfected without trials.”

– Chinese proverb

Never cut what you can untie.”

– Joseph Joubert

A diamond is a lump of coal that stuck with it.”

– Norwegian proverb

If you were independently wealthy and never had to work a day in your life, would you still choose to spend your time attempting to become a successful entrepreneur?”

– Steven Schussler

Think of yourself as on the threshold of unparalleled success. A whole, clear, glorious life lies before you. Achieve! Achieve!”

– Andrew Carnegie

A warrior cannot complain or regret anything. His life is an endless challenge, and challenges cannot possibly be good or bad. Challenges are simply challenges.”

– Carlos Castaneda

There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.”

– JFK

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing.”

– Maya Angelou

We need to learn to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.”

– General Omar Bradley

Tolerance and patience should not be read as signs of weakness. They are signs of strength.”

– The Dalai Lama

Death is to lose the earth you know, for greater knowing; to lose the life you have, for greater life; to leave the friends you loved, for greater loving; to find a land more kind than home, more large than earth.”

– Thomas Wolfe

I may not be able to change what takes place, but I can always choose to change my thinking.”

– Michelle Sedas

‎Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way.”

– Booker T. Washington

If it really was a no-brainer to make it on your own in business there’d be millions of no-brained, harebrained individuals quitting their day jobs.”

– Bill Rancic, "The Apprentice"

Your own words are the bricks and mortar
of the dreams you want to realize.
 The words you choose and their use establish the life you experience.”

– Sonia Croquette

If you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.”

– Oprah Winfrey

Whosoever knows how to fight well is not angry. Whosoever knows how to conquer enemies does not fight them.”

– Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

What is the point of having free will if one cannot occasionally spit in the eye of destiny?”

– Jim Butcher, White Night

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it.”

– Jesse Jackson

There are children playing in the street who could solve some of my top problems in physics, because they have modes of sensory perception that I lost long ago.”

– J. Robert Oppenheimer

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

– Mary Oliver

The dove descending breaks the air / With flame of inkandescent terror.”

– T.S. Eliott

I don’t do very well without fear. There needs to be a part of me saying, ‘That’s going to fail,’ so I can prove myself wrong.”

– Harry Potter's Daniel Radcliffe